Pulling Back the Shades

50 Shades of Grey books have been around for some time now. I hear of many talking about the movie on social media and see moms in waiting rooms and at parks reading this series all the time. While I have chosen NOT to read the books or see the movie, my heart breaks for those singles and moms looking for love in all the wrong places.

This Valentine’s Day, many flocked out like wandering sheep into a wolves den to the movie theaters to watch 50 Shades of Grey. Did they know they weren’t going to be watching a red-hot romance, but rather would be enticed by pull of addictive erotica (a form of pornography)?

I recently came across the book “Pulling Back the Shades” which goes into great detail the dangers of this series and also do extensive research on the effects of erotica on the mind and the family. The authors of the book have also been featured guests on Focus on the Family radio broadcast. There are lots of videos and articles on this website as well as a very cool deal for a free Pulling Back the Shades book too.

Focus on the Family Podcast Exposing the Lure of Romance and Erotica:
Part 1-

Part 2-

Trade your Shades:

The fruit of our lives comes as an overflow of what is filling our hearts. As Christians, we are called to be FILLED with the Holy Spirit. As a result of that filling, we see this fruit in our lives:

But the fruit of the Spirit is love, joy, peace, forbearance, kindness, goodness, faithfulness, gentleness and self-control. Against such things there is no law. Those who belong to Christ Jesus have crucified the flesh with its passions and desires. Since we live by the Spirit, let us keep in step with the Spirit.” Galatians‬ ‭5‬:‭22-25‬ NIV

We cannot fruitful lives on our own strength–it is only a result of the Holy Spirit. He fills us so that He can flow through our actions and attitudes. We can reflect the very character of Jesus in this dark world only through the power of His Holy Spirit.

We can also let our flesh rule and reign, as it says in the same context a few verses prior:

For the flesh desires what is contrary to the Spirit, and the Spirit what is contrary to the flesh. They are in conflict with each other, so that you are not to do whatever you want. But if you are led by the Spirit, you are not under the law. The acts of the flesh are obvious: sexual immorality, impurity and debauchery; idolatry and witchcraft; hatred, discord, jealousy, fits of rage, selfish ambition, dissensions, factions and envy; drunkenness, orgies, and the like. I warn you, as I did before, that those who live like this will not inherit the kingdom of God.” Galatians‬ ‭5‬:‭17-21‬ NIV

I’ve heard it said recently that

Whatever we feed will survive.

If we feed the flesh we will have a life of rotten fruit that only leads to death and ultimately leads to eternal separation from God. But if we feed our lives with the Holy Spirit and God’s word and presence, accepting Jesus as our Savior, we will not only reap a life of good fruit, but eternal life with God!

The good news is that we can live as a light in this dark world with God’s help–He doesn’t require something of His children and then abandon them–the Holy Spirit is here to help us every step of the way!

So I say, walk by the Spirit, and you will not gratify the desires of the flesh. Galatians‬ ‭5‬:‭16‬ NIV

Will you listen to the voice of your Shepherd concerning all matters of what you see and hear so that you can hear Him? He will tell you where to go and where not to go. He will keep you from the traps of the enemy and will bless you for making decisions that starve the flesh so that you can know His voice even better. What love!!!

In His Step
Step by step He leads me
Will I follow or will I stray?
He will never leave me
To be the the enemy’s prey.
As I stay close to Him
I will live in peace and victory.
I trust Him in the darkness
For I know His voice that calls for me.
As I listen to Him in prayer
My shepherd tells me where to go.
He tells me that He loves me and
Where He leads I will follow.

~by Ginger Ekholm

Blessings to your every step,



Your name is written forever on the palm of my hand
For you are my child and I have a purpose and a plan
Don’t grow weary when it seems too hard to walk
I myself will hold you up and listen when you talk
I know every tear you cry and bend my ear to hear everything you say
I myself will be with you when others have gone away
My child when pain surrounds your soul, when it seems too hard to bear
Just remember I have not forgotten you and I will always be there.
You are unforgettable and I will never leave you.
Don’t listen to the lie that you have been forgotten
While you watch with an aching heart the blessings others have gotten
The time will come for you, dear one, but that time is not for you to know.
Just reach out to me and seek my face, learn from me and grow.
As your destiny unfolds, you will see purpose in the pain endured, and in every loss.
And there will be true fellowship with Me, as you daily bear your cross.
I have not forgotten you, and I know where the road will lead
I know the plans I have for you and I know everything you need
And in due time new blessings will come, new seasons will unfold
But trust in me and be content and I will take your silver and give you gold.
For you are not forgotten and you will never be.
For you are my child and I will love you for all eternity.

(I wrote this poem a time in my life as a response to a question I asked God. In a place of deep pain and questioning, I asked God if He had forgotten about me…and these words of life and comfort came flooding from the Father’s loving heart deep into to my aching heart. I pray that these words will bring life to dead dreams and healing to wounded hearts as it has to mine.)

Love and many blessings to you!